“To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.”
All of my best decisions in life have come with some criticism, including adopting. With this being our third adoption the excitement from some family and friends has faded. I'm sure some have the "too much of a good thing might be a bad thing" mentality. But I can say those that know our hearts the best are just as excited this time around as they were for our first adoption, maybe even more excited because they know the journey that we are embarking on is a beautiful one with promises of faith and hope and JOY....for us AND for our daughter-to-be.
I'm getting more familiar with the "YOU HAVE GOT TO BE OUT OF YOUR MIND" eye-popping looks we have gotten from some when we announced our intention to adopt a third child with special needs. I admit, it still makes me uncomfortable when I know people are staring at me thinking "Holy Crap, what in the world are they thinking here?"
I've struggled my whole life always feeling like I had to seek approval from others. I've always been uncomfortable standing out, and clearly when you decide to go and adopt 3 kids with special needs from another country when you have no known fertility issues, people tend to shake their heads a bit. As I grow in my walk with the Lord, I truly feel more and more comfortable knowing I only have an audience of ONE to please. There are the people who are outright critics and say nasty things because they simply don't agree with what we're doing and really have NO idea what they're talking about, and then there are those who silently criticize by not sharing in our excitement and not fully understanding our hearts. Typically the second type tend to hurt me more.
Tonight as I reflect on some of those who might be unjustly judging our decision or even criticizing what we are doing, I am learning to take comfort in that because it means that we are standing up for SOMETHING....we are NOT just going through the motions.
You've got to be your own man not a puppet on a string"
Thank you to those who have taken a moment to express your love and excitement for us! We are thankful for your support!