Does Harlene have special needs other than her heart defects?
Yes! Oops, I guess I forgot to mention that! She has Down Syndrome in addition to the heart defects.
I also am wondering about the money raised. What will happen to Lainas donations?
Since Laina is unavailable for adoption at this time, the funds that were raised for our adoption for her (seen in her FSP account) will be transferred to Harlene's account. We will be able to use those funds that have been donated and also raised through the beach giveaway, etc. for Harlene's adoption.
What about the donations for Lainas locker? Are you starting a new one?
Laina's Locker actually ended on September 23rd so we do not plan on starting a new one. If there is something that you'd like to order, just shoot me an email and we can figure out a payment option since the chipin is expired.
But if Laina's birthparents had met you, they would perhaps have been able to decide to give their child to you?? Maybe you should meet them when you are in EE...
Of course this comment was left by "anonymous" so I don't exactly know how to take it or what the intentions of the comment were. But really? I feel like saying "DIDN'T YOU READ ANYTHING I WROTE? THE ENTIRE POST THAT I SPENT 8 HOURS WRITING INSTEAD OF SLEEPING? THE POST WHERE YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE TO SEE MY HEART BLEEDING ALL OVER THE PAGE?!?" It is not a possibility at this point in time. They are not ready. We are not trying to change their minds. They are not going to come to a complete resolution in two weeks time when they've just begun their struggle. The judge will not approve it anyways. There are many things that I can't write about on a public blog post, which is why I put in my last post that I had not disclosed everything we know. So although I disclosed quite a bit you're not seeing the whole picture. International adoption is intricate, so I have to believe that you must have never been through an international adoption to think that it would be as simple as just meeting them and everything will be A-ok. What is done is done. Actions and words took place that cannot be taken back. Those actions and words changed our course of action and our ability to adopt Laina. I'd love nothing more than for Laina to be our happy ending to this fairy tale, but the truth is that will not happen. Maybe I'm reading too much into your comment but you have to understand how extremely sensitive our emotions are at this point in time and your words make me feel as if I did not do an adequate job explaining the situation.
Are you going to keep her name "Harlene?"
No! A lot of people don't realize that the children's names are changed on Reece's Rainbow website to protect them. When we adopted Zoya her name was listed as "Zoya" AND that was her birth name. Since that time, things have changed and the ladies of Reece's Rainbow choose names for the profiles they receive. Did you know when I googled "Harlene" the meaning came up as "pile of rocks"!!! What in the world???? We will know her birth name when we get her referral at our SDA appointment. We have a couple names we like but we'd definitely like to stay open to using part of her birth name since that will likely be all she will "own" from her past....just like we did with Zoya. So sorry to all of you waiting to hear her name....it likely won't be announced until we have had court!
Are you guaranteed to bring Harlene home?
Nope. In fact we could get there and they could tell us her file is not ready or there is an ever so small possibility that her birth family, or another family in her country would want to take her home or adopt her. This has happened a few times in Harlene's country. You just never know. It is all a leap of faith. Does it make us nervous? Yah a little, but either way we know God is steering this ship!
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Now let's go get baby girl!